Mike and Kate were married recently at Holy Family Cathedral here in Tulsa followed by a reception at the Oklahoma Jazz Hall of Fame. The day was a bit different than our usual wedding days and I love it when couples break up their days like this. We arrived just shortly before the ceremony began and then had a large break between the ceremony/mass and the reception. This gave us a few hours to have a relaxed time for portraits and they had contracted a bus so we spent awhile driving to different locations around Tulsa. This was one of those weddings that, despite my feet and back aching after 10+ hours of working, I could have stayed shooting for hours more. Not only was it just a great reception with great music, great food, and great dancing but just watching Kate and Mike enjoy it so much was fun to watch.
Don’t miss the bottom of this post to see some of the fabulous vendors that were a part of this day!
I love this quiet moment right before Kate’s dad walked her down the aisle. I think they were both pretty nervous and fighting back a few tears.
Gosh, they’re cute.
Holy Family is such a beautiful cathedral. I love getting the opportunity to photograph there.
I love that pop of color against the navy dresses. Kate & Mike had a fantastic wedding party. They were fun, a little ornery, and up for me dragging them all around the city.
Both the bride and groom are graduates of the University of Tulsa so we took a quick trip over to the campus for a few photos. Although I’ve photographed a number of weddings at TU I haven’t had a lot of chances for portraits there. It’s such a lovely campus!
Last stop was the Center of the Universe. We kicked a whole crowd of people out of the way to get a couple quick shots before entering the reception.
The Wavetones can absolutely rock a reception! Love working with them!
They opted for a Snapshot Lounge for their reception and their guests were totally fun! This is how Snapshot Lounges should always be!
Did you know I have a referral program for boudoir photos? Probably not because I’ve been pretty terrible about telling folks about it. Technically, I have referral programs for weddings, families, newborns, etc etc etc. (By program I of course mean Starbucks cards, free sessions, or whatever you want because I LOVE referrals!) I’m happy to chat with you about those some time if you’d like to know about them! Today though, we’ll be discussing our boudoir referral program. Everyone knows a photographer. You’re probably related to a photographer. There’s approximately 5,439,027 photographers in the Tulsa area so I’m sure you’ve bumped into one or two of them. Lucky for me, not all of them photograph boudoir pictures. The ladies that use me for their boudoir shoot tell their friends, and if they’re telling their friends they should be getting something from it. It’s my way of saying thank you. I literally would not have my business if it weren’t for loyal clients that brag on me.
The great thing about boudoir shoots is that they’re kind of addictive. You’ll have so much fun at yours that I can almost promise you’ll want to do it again. So many of my girls come back every few years for a new book. (I’d like to make a note here that even the most conservative budget-making husband is, without fail, always on board with a new book.) For that reason, my thank you for sending clients to me is by gifting you more boudoir pictures. I even promise not to make it complicated. Well, I’ll try at least.
Refer 1 Client: If you refer one of your friends that books a boudoir session that automatically gives you a free mini session in the sheets. This is a 20 minute session where we’ll wrap you up in sheets and create sexy and flirty photos for you. The nice thing about it is you don’t have to plan complicated lingerie. For these we recommend a bra and panty set. You can throw on an oversized sweater, one of his favorite t-shirts, or kimono to add a little variety. Mini session are great for our Little Black Book products or it would also be appropriate for a 10×10 canvas for the nightstand.
Refer 2 Clients: If you have sent us 2 new boudoir clients you earn a one hour photo shoot. This is the same shoot you’d get if you were just calling the studio for the first time for a session – all the bells and whistles! Be warned though, you’re going to want a gorgeous book to go along with the photos. But because you’ve been through this process before and you’re just helping your pocketbook out a little bit for your next session.
Refer 3 Clients: Here’s where it gets fun, if you refer me 3 clients you have some options. Basically you have $300 credit to use however you please! You can put it towards your session, you can put it towards products, or whatever you’d like. Let’s play!
Refer 4 Clients: Um…. if you refer me FOUR clients, just go ahead and tell me what you’d like. I’d be incredibly indebted to you. Boudoir session? Sure! Dinner for 2 at Mahogany’s? Absolutely. My first born child? We can talk.
To get serious though for a minute, I can’t thank my clients enough. You trust me enough to send your friends and I appreciate it so much. I’ve been a photographer for 17 years (17??? What the actual hell??) and I can say, without a shadow of doubt, that I wouldn’t have a successful business if it weren’t for my clients. Some of you have stuck with me for a really long time. It’s not fun to admit, but there was a time when my customer service was less than stellar (understatement) and you continued to come back to me. If I haven’t told you thank you recently, please know I’m saying thank you now. (You know who you are – Basically everyone from 2008.) Some of you have moved on to some of the other 5,439,027 photographers, but maybe it’s time for a session that’s all about you. Either way, I’d love to take care of you.
For more boudoir images and information check out our gallery!
Alisa’s bridal session at the Tulsa Garden Center and Philbrook were stupid pretty. So pretty that I need to split them up into two blog posts because one blog just can’t contain all the pretty. If you know me you know I love dramatic lighting, and that’s so conducive to the Tulsa Garden Center, so I was thrilled that we got to do some of her photos indoors. (Note: Brides you are always welcome to choose 2 locations for your bridal session. If you need some suggestions we’re happy to help!) Alisa’s dress is the kind of dress dreams are made of (at least my dreams are) and when I first saw a photo of it I started planning out her bridal session in my mind. I’m so excited to get to show them off! Alisa’s Cavapoo, Penny, even made an appearance. Penny was a good girl and played along with Alisa’s and my requests and we got some of the sweetest bride and dog photos!! My brides this year are so excited about their bridal sessions and are adding touches that make them unique and beautiful and I am LOVING it!! Look for part II of this session coming soon!
In part one of this blog series we began going over for some tips and tricks for preparing for your boudoir session. I wanted to break up this blog into two parts simply because it can get overwhelming. Knowing that my clients are making a significant investment in this shoot – I want them to be as well prepared as possible. I don’t know about you, but the more I know going into something the better I feel about it. That’s the main reason I’m putting such a focus into boudoir sessions this year. In this blog, we’ll be focusing on the day before and the day of your boudoir photo shoot.
1) Pack your bag.
I suggest packing all your outfit choices the night before if at all possible. If the boudoir shoot is a surprise for your hubby or fiancee you may have to be a bit sneaky about this one. When you’re packing don’t forget accessories and shoes. Sometimes a hat or jacket can be the perfect item to totally change the appearance of an outfit. The more of these items you come with the better. I love having a stack of jewelry and shoes that we can play with during the shoot. It would be a huge favor to me if you can go ahead and cut the tags out of all of your see-through lingerie. Don’t forget to bring a robe! You’ll want something you can wear between sets and we may even add it as an accessory to one of your outfits.
After a nice, relaxing bath moisturize everything – Especially your legs and your booty. Legs are an obvious one, but you might be surprised that the badonkadonk (is that how you spell badonkadonk? Is there an actual correct spelling for badonkadonk?) might need a once over as well (eta: I’d like to add here that I realize I have a very weird job when I’m recommending ladies moisturize their backside. But alas, it’s how I roll!) Go ahead and pack your lotion to come with you to your photo shoot. If your skin starts to look a little dry it’s nice to have it handy!
3) Wear loose fitting clothing.
Where oversized or baggy clothes when coming to your boudoir session. Please no tight jeans or tops that will leave lines on your body that will need to be removed during retouching. Don’t forget about socks and shoes as well – sock bands are some of the worst culprits. If it’s not too chilly outside flip-flops are probably your best best for footwear. A button down top is loose and you won’t have to worry pulling it over freshly styled hair. Plus, who doesn’t love comfy clothes? You’re about to be in all kinds of clothes that, most likely, aren’t the most comfortable in your closet. If you’re coming from work or someplace you’re unable to wear loose fitting clothes, we’ll just have you wear that robe you packed while you’re having your hair and makeup done.
4) Don’t be rushed.
Give yourself time before your shoot. Don’t schedule anything close to your shoot (both before and after) so that you’ll be able to get to the studio without stressing. We don’t want you to feel rushed. Make sure you know where the studio is located and how long it will take you to get there. (hint: it’s less than 10 minutes from almost anywhere in Tulsa). If you’ve gathered and packed your bag the night before it’ll be easy to throw it in the car and go.
5) Relax, relax, relax!
But really…. Just relax. The more you’re relaxed the better your photos will look. I know boudoir photo shoots probably aren’t something you do most days and it’s easy to get stressed about them, but I’m going to ask that you trust me that it will be an amazing experience. When I say you’re going to feel like a hottie and feel empowered and sexy and all those wonderful things I’m not just blowing smoke up your skirt. Put your worries aside – You’re not too fat or too old, you’re not awkward, and you will look lovely in these photos. But I’m going to need you to trust me that I can bring out your very best. Let us pamper you and create an unforgettable experience.
I hope these last couple blog posts have helped you in planning your boudoir session. We’re here to help, so if you have any further questions just let us know. Call the studio at 918-488-6180 or email us at info@amurphyphoto! In the meantime take a look at our gallery of boudoir images for a bit more information.
Over the years I’ve found that getting ready for any kind of photo shoot tends to be a source of stress. You know the bit: Family photos – you’re trying to coordinate everyone’s schedules. Senior photos – you’re trying not to look like your mom dressed you in every outfit. Newborn photos – Well… don’t get me started on that. I’ve found though that boudoir photos tend to stress ladies out the most. And it’s no wonder why – just researching this blog I found plenty of opinions that photographers are putting out there that sound horribly stressful (I quickly stopped my research and decided to simply tell you what I know.) Don’t worry, I’m not going to tell you to cut out out all carbs, fat, and calories. However, I am going to give you simple tips for ways to make the most of your boudoir session. This will be a two part blog series as there’s a lot of information I can share with you on the subject. My goal is to remove all stress from this process and make this experience nothing but fun!
1) Drink lots of water the week leading up to your photo shoot.
I could write a whole blog post on just this one aspect. Water, water, water that week. Your skin is going to look more glowy, your face will be moisturized, and your lips won’t be chapped. If you’re drinking tons of water you’ll have less time to drink things like tea, red wine, and coffee and this will lead to whiter teeth. Another added bonus to the extra hydration is that it will help you remove any water weight or bloating. On top of all that, you’re just going to feel better. I don’t know about you, but when I’m upping my water intake I just feel better about myself and my outlook. That extra boost in confidence is a great thing to bring to your boudoir shoot.
2) Make the most of your pre-consultation.
About a week before your boudoir session you’ll come to the studio and meet with me. At that appointment we’ll be getting to know one another, talking about what you want in a boudoir session, outfit choices, and what you’ll be using the photos for when the session is complete. I have a rule in boudoir pre-consultations: This is the only time you can talk about what you don’t like about your body. After that, you’re not allowed to bring it up – no negativity at your photo shoot! If you have outfits already in mind, bring those so I can see them. We can discuss any specific type of shot that you’d like and I’m happy to recreate that with my own interpretation on it (translation: I won’t rip off what’s on Pinterest, but I like seeing what you think is pretty!). Sometimes my new clients come to this meeting more nervous than they do the actual boudoir session. This appointment will help put your mind at ease.
3) Be realistic about your body when shopping for outfits.
When trying on new lingerie take a good hard look in the mirror. It may be the size you wear, but sometimes the next size up can be the best bet when it comes to lingerie pieces. This is especially important when purchasing panties and thongs. Watch where they cut into your waist. Would the next size up be more flattering? Inversely, sometimes a smaller size in a bra cup can be a good thing. If we’re going for voluptuous a smaller cup size can help with that. Those strappy teddies are so pretty but they may not be flattering on you without a bra. There’s a lot I can do with posing and lighting, but the better fitting the lingerie is the better your boudoir photos are going to look. After you’ve done your shopping try on all the looks you’re considering and make sure they’re steamed or ironed.
4) Get a tan, or don’t get a tan, but look like yourself! Tanning is an iffy subject. If you’re not usually very tan, by all means don’t go get a tan! If you prefer your appearance with that sunkissed look, go ahead and get a tan. But be careful where you go – if it requires you to step into a booth for a machine to spray you down don’t do it! Take it from Ross.
There’s a number of places we can recommend you get a tan (about 2-3 days before your photo shoot) that will look natural. Be careful with over tanning, it can actually make you look heavier in photos. Eek! If your session is taking place during the summer avoid tan lines at all cost! We can retouch out tan lines if necessary, but there may be a fee if it’s extensive work. To summarize, your boudoir photos should reflect you on your very best day, it’s up to you to decide if that means a tan.
5) Don’t have a facial or dermaplaning within 5 days of your session
You want to look and feel your absolute best for your session, and for some women that means dermaplaning or a facial. It’s best though that they’re avoided right before your boudoir shoot. A facial brings the toxins to the skin and can cause breakouts so you’ll need a few days for that to clear. A dermaplaning close to your shoot will cause your makeup to have some issue – makeup needs something on which to cling. It’s best to have dermaplaning 7 days prior. Neither of these are at all necessary for a successful photo shoot, but if they’re something you regularly enjoy doing just make sure they’re completed about a week before your appointment.
I hope this first post has gotten your wheels turning with ideas. We’ll continue this series with 5 more tips on how to prepare for your boudoir shoot. Check back soon for Part 2!
Would you like to see more boudoir pictures? Check out our gallery of images!