It is high time we chat about Christmas boudoir photos! It’s November and the time is NOW. So often 1-2 weeks before Christmas and 1-2 weeks before Valentine’s day, we start getting tons of emails wanting to get in for a boudoir photo shoot. While we can definitely do a 1-2 week turnaround, it makes things very rushed and then the client has to take care of rush charges and such. If you’ve visited my blog before, you’ve probably read where I’ve mentioned the importance of being relaxed for your shoot so the earlier you can get in the less stressed you’ll be.
Are you looking for the perfect gift to put under the tree? I’ve yet to hear of a guy that was anything but thrilled with getting a custom designed album of his gorgeous lady! Or maybe you’re like me and you’re a self-proclaimed Christmas Queen. The most wonderful time of year might be a great reason for a sexy Santa photo shoot.
Admittedly, the idea of Christmas themed boudoir pictures makes a lot of folks cringe – we go right to cheap and trashy Santa lingerie. But it doesn’t have to be like that. I’ve compiled a list of ideas that are Christmas themed without being cheesy.
Red Satin Sheets. This needs no further explanation.
Christmas sweater and leg warmers. Really any kind of oversized comfy, cozy sweater will do. I love the addition of leg warmers or knee high cable knit socks and a cute pair of panties.
Props should be an enhancement, but they so easily take over a shoot. I don’t want your boudoir session to look like a Pinterest board threw up on your pictures. A candy cane, a cup of hot chocolate, Santa hat, or maybe a big red bow are all solid choices. If you’d like props choose 1 or 2 and let the rest of the session be about you.
Think red. Red lingerie, red lipstick, red dress. You can’t go wrong with red. And speaking of dresses, got a fabulous and flirty dress? Bring it! They make a great addition to the session, especially for an image you’d like have turned into a print for the nightstand.
Christmas lights. This is my favorite way to bring a holiday flair into your photos! There’s something so magical about twinkle lights in photos. (sorry… Christmas Queen getting carried away there)
Even if you’re not wanting Christmas themed boudoir pictures, you may still be wanting them as a Christmas gift. So just keep in mind that our turnaround for custom products is usually around 6 weeks. In order to avoid rush fees and have your pictures back by Christmas your session should take place by, like, now.
Have an idea that you’d like to try that isn’t listed here? Let us know and we can make that a reality! For more information on boudoir sessions check out our boudoir gallery.
Did you know I have a referral program for boudoir photos? Probably not because I’ve been pretty terrible about telling folks about it. Technically, I have referral programs for weddings, families, newborns, etc etc etc. (By program I of course mean Starbucks cards, free sessions, or whatever you want because I LOVE referrals!) I’m happy to chat with you about those some time if you’d like to know about them! Today though, we’ll be discussing our boudoir referral program. Everyone knows a photographer. You’re probably related to a photographer. There’s approximately 5,439,027 photographers in the Tulsa area so I’m sure you’ve bumped into one or two of them. Lucky for me, not all of them photograph boudoir pictures. The ladies that use me for their boudoir shoot tell their friends, and if they’re telling their friends they should be getting something from it. It’s my way of saying thank you. I literally would not have my business if it weren’t for loyal clients that brag on me.
The great thing about boudoir shoots is that they’re kind of addictive. You’ll have so much fun at yours that I can almost promise you’ll want to do it again. So many of my girls come back every few years for a new book. (I’d like to make a note here that even the most conservative budget-making husband is, without fail, always on board with a new book.) For that reason, my thank you for sending clients to me is by gifting you more boudoir pictures. I even promise not to make it complicated. Well, I’ll try at least.
Refer 1 Client: If you refer one of your friends that books a boudoir session that automatically gives you a free mini session in the sheets. This is a 20 minute session where we’ll wrap you up in sheets and create sexy and flirty photos for you. The nice thing about it is you don’t have to plan complicated lingerie. For these we recommend a bra and panty set. You can throw on an oversized sweater, one of his favorite t-shirts, or kimono to add a little variety. Mini session are great for our Little Black Book products or it would also be appropriate for a 10×10 canvas for the nightstand.
Refer 2 Clients: If you have sent us 2 new boudoir clients you earn a one hour photo shoot. This is the same shoot you’d get if you were just calling the studio for the first time for a session – all the bells and whistles! Be warned though, you’re going to want a gorgeous book to go along with the photos. But because you’ve been through this process before and you’re just helping your pocketbook out a little bit for your next session.
Refer 3 Clients: Here’s where it gets fun, if you refer me 3 clients you have some options. Basically you have $300 credit to use however you please! You can put it towards your session, you can put it towards products, or whatever you’d like. Let’s play!
Refer 4 Clients: Um…. if you refer me FOUR clients, just go ahead and tell me what you’d like. I’d be incredibly indebted to you. Boudoir session? Sure! Dinner for 2 at Mahogany’s? Absolutely. My first born child? We can talk.
To get serious though for a minute, I can’t thank my clients enough. You trust me enough to send your friends and I appreciate it so much. I’ve been a photographer for 17 years (17??? What the actual hell??) and I can say, without a shadow of doubt, that I wouldn’t have a successful business if it weren’t for my clients. Some of you have stuck with me for a really long time. It’s not fun to admit, but there was a time when my customer service was less than stellar (understatement) and you continued to come back to me. If I haven’t told you thank you recently, please know I’m saying thank you now. (You know who you are – Basically everyone from 2008.) Some of you have moved on to some of the other 5,439,027 photographers, but maybe it’s time for a session that’s all about you. Either way, I’d love to take care of you.
For more boudoir images and information check out our gallery!
In part one of this blog series we began going over for some tips and tricks for preparing for your boudoir session. I wanted to break up this blog into two parts simply because it can get overwhelming. Knowing that my clients are making a significant investment in this shoot – I want them to be as well prepared as possible. I don’t know about you, but the more I know going into something the better I feel about it. That’s the main reason I’m putting such a focus into boudoir sessions this year. In this blog, we’ll be focusing on the day before and the day of your boudoir photo shoot.
1) Pack your bag.
I suggest packing all your outfit choices the night before if at all possible. If the boudoir shoot is a surprise for your hubby or fiancee you may have to be a bit sneaky about this one. When you’re packing don’t forget accessories and shoes. Sometimes a hat or jacket can be the perfect item to totally change the appearance of an outfit. The more of these items you come with the better. I love having a stack of jewelry and shoes that we can play with during the shoot. It would be a huge favor to me if you can go ahead and cut the tags out of all of your see-through lingerie. Don’t forget to bring a robe! You’ll want something you can wear between sets and we may even add it as an accessory to one of your outfits.
After a nice, relaxing bath moisturize everything – Especially your legs and your booty. Legs are an obvious one, but you might be surprised that the badonkadonk (is that how you spell badonkadonk? Is there an actual correct spelling for badonkadonk?) might need a once over as well (eta: I’d like to add here that I realize I have a very weird job when I’m recommending ladies moisturize their backside. But alas, it’s how I roll!) Go ahead and pack your lotion to come with you to your photo shoot. If your skin starts to look a little dry it’s nice to have it handy!
3) Wear loose fitting clothing.
Where oversized or baggy clothes when coming to your boudoir session. Please no tight jeans or tops that will leave lines on your body that will need to be removed during retouching. Don’t forget about socks and shoes as well – sock bands are some of the worst culprits. If it’s not too chilly outside flip-flops are probably your best best for footwear. A button down top is loose and you won’t have to worry pulling it over freshly styled hair. Plus, who doesn’t love comfy clothes? You’re about to be in all kinds of clothes that, most likely, aren’t the most comfortable in your closet. If you’re coming from work or someplace you’re unable to wear loose fitting clothes, we’ll just have you wear that robe you packed while you’re having your hair and makeup done.
4) Don’t be rushed.
Give yourself time before your shoot. Don’t schedule anything close to your shoot (both before and after) so that you’ll be able to get to the studio without stressing. We don’t want you to feel rushed. Make sure you know where the studio is located and how long it will take you to get there. (hint: it’s less than 10 minutes from almost anywhere in Tulsa). If you’ve gathered and packed your bag the night before it’ll be easy to throw it in the car and go.
5) Relax, relax, relax!
But really…. Just relax. The more you’re relaxed the better your photos will look. I know boudoir photo shoots probably aren’t something you do most days and it’s easy to get stressed about them, but I’m going to ask that you trust me that it will be an amazing experience. When I say you’re going to feel like a hottie and feel empowered and sexy and all those wonderful things I’m not just blowing smoke up your skirt. Put your worries aside – You’re not too fat or too old, you’re not awkward, and you will look lovely in these photos. But I’m going to need you to trust me that I can bring out your very best. Let us pamper you and create an unforgettable experience.
I hope these last couple blog posts have helped you in planning your boudoir session. We’re here to help, so if you have any further questions just let us know. Call the studio at 918-488-6180 or email us at info@amurphyphoto! In the meantime take a look at our gallery of boudoir images for a bit more information.
Over the years I’ve found that getting ready for any kind of photo shoot tends to be a source of stress. You know the bit: Family photos – you’re trying to coordinate everyone’s schedules. Senior photos – you’re trying not to look like your mom dressed you in every outfit. Newborn photos – Well… don’t get me started on that. I’ve found though that boudoir photos tend to stress ladies out the most. And it’s no wonder why – just researching this blog I found plenty of opinions that photographers are putting out there that sound horribly stressful (I quickly stopped my research and decided to simply tell you what I know.) Don’t worry, I’m not going to tell you to cut out out all carbs, fat, and calories. However, I am going to give you simple tips for ways to make the most of your boudoir session. This will be a two part blog series as there’s a lot of information I can share with you on the subject. My goal is to remove all stress from this process and make this experience nothing but fun!
1) Drink lots of water the week leading up to your photo shoot.
I could write a whole blog post on just this one aspect. Water, water, water that week. Your skin is going to look more glowy, your face will be moisturized, and your lips won’t be chapped. If you’re drinking tons of water you’ll have less time to drink things like tea, red wine, and coffee and this will lead to whiter teeth. Another added bonus to the extra hydration is that it will help you remove any water weight or bloating. On top of all that, you’re just going to feel better. I don’t know about you, but when I’m upping my water intake I just feel better about myself and my outlook. That extra boost in confidence is a great thing to bring to your boudoir shoot.
2) Make the most of your pre-consultation.
About a week before your boudoir session you’ll come to the studio and meet with me. At that appointment we’ll be getting to know one another, talking about what you want in a boudoir session, outfit choices, and what you’ll be using the photos for when the session is complete. I have a rule in boudoir pre-consultations: This is the only time you can talk about what you don’t like about your body. After that, you’re not allowed to bring it up – no negativity at your photo shoot! If you have outfits already in mind, bring those so I can see them. We can discuss any specific type of shot that you’d like and I’m happy to recreate that with my own interpretation on it (translation: I won’t rip off what’s on Pinterest, but I like seeing what you think is pretty!). Sometimes my new clients come to this meeting more nervous than they do the actual boudoir session. This appointment will help put your mind at ease.
3) Be realistic about your body when shopping for outfits.
When trying on new lingerie take a good hard look in the mirror. It may be the size you wear, but sometimes the next size up can be the best bet when it comes to lingerie pieces. This is especially important when purchasing panties and thongs. Watch where they cut into your waist. Would the next size up be more flattering? Inversely, sometimes a smaller size in a bra cup can be a good thing. If we’re going for voluptuous a smaller cup size can help with that. Those strappy teddies are so pretty but they may not be flattering on you without a bra. There’s a lot I can do with posing and lighting, but the better fitting the lingerie is the better your boudoir photos are going to look. After you’ve done your shopping try on all the looks you’re considering and make sure they’re steamed or ironed.
4) Get a tan, or don’t get a tan, but look like yourself! Tanning is an iffy subject. If you’re not usually very tan, by all means don’t go get a tan! If you prefer your appearance with that sunkissed look, go ahead and get a tan. But be careful where you go – if it requires you to step into a booth for a machine to spray you down don’t do it! Take it from Ross.
There’s a number of places we can recommend you get a tan (about 2-3 days before your photo shoot) that will look natural. Be careful with over tanning, it can actually make you look heavier in photos. Eek! If your session is taking place during the summer avoid tan lines at all cost! We can retouch out tan lines if necessary, but there may be a fee if it’s extensive work. To summarize, your boudoir photos should reflect you on your very best day, it’s up to you to decide if that means a tan.
5) Don’t have a facial or dermaplaning within 5 days of your session
You want to look and feel your absolute best for your session, and for some women that means dermaplaning or a facial. It’s best though that they’re avoided right before your boudoir shoot. A facial brings the toxins to the skin and can cause breakouts so you’ll need a few days for that to clear. A dermaplaning close to your shoot will cause your makeup to have some issue – makeup needs something on which to cling. It’s best to have dermaplaning 7 days prior. Neither of these are at all necessary for a successful photo shoot, but if they’re something you regularly enjoy doing just make sure they’re completed about a week before your appointment.
I hope this first post has gotten your wheels turning with ideas. We’ll continue this series with 5 more tips on how to prepare for your boudoir shoot. Check back soon for Part 2!
Would you like to see more boudoir pictures? Check out our gallery of images!
Maternity boudoir photography. Yes it’s thing. If I have one area that people are most shocked about when I tell them what I photograph, its gotta be maternity boudoir. I sometimes get these horrified looks and gasps of “People do that?! I hated being pregnant!!” And ya know what, I kinda get it. Personally I had very easy pregnancies, but I still didn’t really enjoy it. The perception is that the women that do these photo shoots must have had very easy pregnancies and were just totally confident in their bodies. I do have clients every now and then that feel that way. I’ve had some tell me they’ve never felt sexier being pregnant and they wanted to capture that, but that certainly isn’t the norm. In fact, I’ve found that it’s quite the opposite for the most part.
If you’ve been pregnant, you know the psychotic hormones wide array of emotions you experience for those 9+ months. You can go from feeling strong and like Wonder Woman (I mean hello, you’re growing a human!!) to being insecure and wondering what your life (and body) will look like after that precious baby is in your arms. Those thoughts and emotions tend to play into the decision for a boudoir session when you may or may not be feeling your most glamorous. The question of “why” to do a maternity boudoir session is a pretty vast one.
I’m here to make a case for why I think it’s a great idea.
1) This Pregnancy is Unique
Maybe its your first pregnancy, or your last, or maybe this will be your only pregnancy. Unfortunately, there are so many women dealing with infertility and they’re aware that this could very likely be their one and only pregnancy. I can’t tell you the number of women that have been in my studio, beyond thankful, because they had struggled for that miracle baby. The point is, the opportunity will only be there once. You may have more babies, but the way you feel today is unique to only that pregnancy. A maternity boudoir session is a great way to celebrate it!
2) Your Curves are Kickin’
The number on the scale might be higher these days, but how ‘bout that awesome rack?! And that booty that once lacked some of the curve you wanted? Yeah, baby got back! I’d propose that this is a great time to slip into a sexier piece of lingerie and show off those curves. I’m willing to bet that your hubby agrees that you’re as hot now pregnant as you were before. Personally, I think a pregnant woman is just stunning!! I remember just a few months ago, pregnant, feeling not so stunning. People would tell me I was glowing and I really wondered if they were crazy. Now just a few months out I see a pregnant lady and I’m just enthralled by how beautiful they are! Trust what people are saying, you’re just so beautiful even if you’re not feeling it. What better time would there be for a boudoir session when you’re beautiful, glowing, and have curves in all the right places?
3) You Need Pampering
I get it. You’re a woman – you already have a full plate. You’re either working a demanding job or chasing your other small children or both. You make dinner. You clean the house. And dangit nothing sounds better than a medium rare steak, with a side of sushi, and a whole bottle of wine. Scratch that. A pitcher of margaritas. On top of all that, you’re making a human 24/7. How great would it be to sit in our dressing room, surrounded by a team of hair and makeup artists, sipping a mocktail, and then get to play the part of a model for an hour or so? The very experience just removes you from the rest of the world and gives you the chance to focus on yourself a little bit. Please don’t mistake me, that’s not selfishness. That’s taking time to reset and getting pampered. We love teaming up with some of the very best hair and makeup artists in Tulsa. They’re trained to do hair and makeup so you’ll be camera ready. I know lots of people that are great at doing their own makeup, but no offense, you’re not trained the way they are. I choose the hair and makeup artists I work with very carefully and they’re experts in creating the perfect boudoir style for your session.
4) It’s Empowering
I remember a lady a few years ago that had a terrible pregnancy. You know, puking the whole time, fainting spells, labor pains starting early on, etc. If it was a bad symptom, this chick had it. Anyone out there relating to this? She came to me because she needed to be able to remember something good about it. She needed to feel like something more than a miserable baby making machine. Despite how she was feeling going into the session, she came out of it feeling like a sexy woman again. With any boudoir session, it turns out to be more of a confidence builder for the client than anything else. Some women could really use that enormous boost of confidence when they’re pregnant.
5) You’ll Quickly Forget How You Looked
Pretty soon, this pregnancy will be a distant memory. For those first few weeks after you deliver your bundle of joy (or in my case, the first couple years) you may not be loving the way your post-baby body looks. It can be such a great encouragement to be able to open your custom designed album and remind yourself of the awesome work you just went through. Your body is doing something incredible, and it’s worth documenting it. Let us help you bring out the sensual and soft side of you during this time, and create a beautiful portrait with which you can remember it.
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With the launch of my brand new website (and are we loving it?! I know I am!) I made the decision to start advertising that I do boudoir photography. Boudoir photography is something we’ve always done, and we do a lot of it, though I’ve always been somewhat hesitant to display it on my website. Boudoir photography is of an intimate nature and my client’s privacy is of the utmost importance to me. And understandably some clients want their images kept private. Beyond that, I want people to understand my heart when it comes to boudoir photography. Having a session of this nature is an empowering and super fun experience. I understand that it’s not for everyone – And that’s okay. I’m aware that some people find it offensive, and I want to avoid offending people as much as possible. I want those that might not understand boudoir photography to know that it’s not trashy or pornography. What I show on my website is tamer than what you might even see in a lingerie advertisement. For those reasons, I’ve mostly kept it off my website and blog. I’ve found over the last few years that the perception of boudoir photography has changed significantly. My hope is that I can share how these women walk out of their session feeling like a million bucks and how it truly changes their perception of themselves. So here we are!
I’ve been shooting boudoir sessions since before I really even knew a name for them. While I was studying photography at OSU (go Pokes!) the photography students were always photographing each other, and well, it’s easy to get college girls to take their clothes off. And the rest is history! Totally, totally joking of course. What really happened was that I wanted to create a modern take on a pin-up photo for an assignment. After that project I realized not only how much fun I had photographing it, but how much the woman I photographed felt like a goddess afterwards! Photography is great, but there’s something awesome about being able to have an affect on a woman’s perception about herself through my art. I was hooked from that point on.
After launching my business in 2008, I dived into boudoir marathons and parties and have grown the business each year. I’ve photographed women of literally every size and shape. I’ve photographed women who walked into the shoot like they owned the place, and ones that were so nervous they were nearly in tears. When I started I felt like boudoir was for younger women, how young and foolish I was. Plenty of women have boudoir sessions for wedding gifts or one year anniversaries, but a very large percentage of my clients are middle aged and beyond. They might be doing the session for a significant other, but many of them are doing it just for themselves! Not gonna lie, those are my favorites. Women have boudoir sessions to celebrate a birthday, a big career change, a significant change in their appearance, or just to remind themselves that they’re a sexy chick! I can say with confidence, with no intention of boasting, that my boudoir clients no matter their age or reason for their session, walk out of my studio feeling like total hotties!
For your boudoir pictures we will book three appointments with you. The first appointment is your pre-consultation. At this appointment you’ll have a chance to get to know me because, let’s be real, you want to make sure I’m not creepy. We’ll discuss ideas for outfits/looks, plans for the shoot itself, and go over all the options of how to use your images (hint: you’re going to want them all.) The second appointment is your photo shoot itself, and you have the choice of a 1 or 2 hour session. We have a gorgeous studio at 51st and Yale in Tulsa and have so many different sets and backdrops. We can create sets and looks so that there’s no need to rent a hotel room. (I admit I have a problem – I buy all the couches. I currently have 5 sofas in the studio.) We work closely with a few hair and makeup artists who will come to our studio for glamming and pampering. You can even sip champagne if you want. 7-10 days after your photo shoot you’ll come back to the studio for your reveal session with me where we’ll go through your images one by one and decide which ones to use in your book, prints, image boxes, and digital copies. I will “hold your hand” throughout that appointment and make it stress free and fun.
Boudoir sessions are one of my (many) favorite parts about my job and we’d love to get you set up with an appointment. Just hit the “contact” button and drop us a line. If you’re interested in boudoir, check back often. This is only the beginning of a number of blogs featuring boudoir because I’m passionate about helping you better understand this sexy and empowering art form.